Happy Pride Month!

It’s finally June, which means the sleeves get shorter, the sun shows itself every so often and the questionable footwear starts to make an appearance. This year particularly, it’s safe to say we’ve all been counting down to this month- finally we are liberated from the doom of Lockdown and can do our best to safely get on with normal life once again.
But for many of us, June is a reminder of a different kind of freedom- the freedom to be and express our true Pride colours. Pride is, in brief, a celebration of the various sexualities and gender identities. To the untrained eye, a Pride Parade can look a bit like a Eurovision Final: all stripey flags and big smiles, plus a few exotic-looking characters thrown in for good measure. They do instead represent the LGBTQQIAAP identities, or LGBTQ+ for short. They stand for Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, Transgender, Queer, Questioning, Intersex, Ally, Asexual, and Pansexual. Other sexualities and identities are available and equally as valid, but for now, these are the ones represented in the acronym.
These words are probably overwhelming, and you’ll soon find if you look into them that many overlap and can be confusing. But they are becoming more and more spoken about, more a part of our pop culture, so I would highly encourage you to look into the meanings of Pride identities, because I guarantee you there are people in your life who are identifying as one or more of this list, whether they’re officially “out” yet or not.
Pride means exactly the same to the LGBTQ+ community as it does to everyone else- it means being proud, feeling good about yourself and what you’re doing and feeling like you’ve achieved something, which thanks to the Stonewall Riots, we have. Though Stonewall was a strictly American riot, sparked by homophobia from the Police in a gay bar in Greenwich, it was the ignition that caused the rest of the world to protest for fairer rights for persons of and suspected to be part of the LGBTQ+ community.
The world is regrettably still not equal for the LGBTQ+ community, but we must be thankful for how far we have progressed since 1969 when the riots occurred. As someone who identifies as one of the lesser known sexualities, Asexual, I can’t begin to express the relief and the joy I feel when filling out a form and I see ‘Asexual’ included under the list of sexualities. To me it’s recognition, it’s validation and it’s inclusion. I feel like I am an equal when I see that. It feels crazy, to be grateful that a part of who I am that I have no control over is being finally acknowledged- you don’t see any Ginger Pride Parades or Short Person Pride Parades, but it is better than feeling completely invisible and outcast.
So how do I support my LGBTQ+ friends? This is a big question with a lot of room for personal preference. First of all, ask them where they stand on labels- some people find labels constrictive, others find them comforting. It’s important to know whether they’re okay with you referring to them by a specific sexuality label or not. It’s the same with gender identities.
Secondly, ask about pronouns- He/She/They/Them etc. In fact, there’s a big social media movement at the moment of everyone putting their gender pronouns in their profiles- even if to you it may be obvious that you are a male/female, by adding it to your profile you are supporting Transgender, Non-Binary, Genderfluid etc by normalising giving pronouns you are . It’s a small thing that makes a big difference.
Do some research on them- LGBTQ+ identities mean everything to some people, and nothing makes me feel more valid than if one of my friends tells me they read something about Asexuality or if they saw a meme they thought I could relate to as an Asexual.
Treat them normally- Nothing has changed in that person, they just finally have the strength to be honest about themselves to you and that’s a big deal. But they’re still the same person they have always been, and you shouldn’t see them any differently than when you first met.
Don’t be impertinent- Sexuality is about so much more than just how they have sex, so don’t try to fetishize their sexuality. Also steer away from any questions such as “Are you sure you’re [insert label here]?” or “How do you know you just haven’t met the right person yet?” Trust me when I say, we know these things as sure as we know what music we like or what foods are our favourites.
The biggest thing to just remember is they’re still as human as any heterosexual (straight) person so really, it shouldn’t affect the dynamic of your friendship. This world acknowledges there are many different ways to love people and many different people to love. Bottom line is, love is love.









